I don’t turn 40 for a couple of weeks. But classes start the Monday after my birthday, so my “birthday weekend” needs to be fairly quiet. So I decided, as one does, to get the party started a bit early.
Note: I’m not freaked out at all about the Big 4-0. Indeed, I’m excited to be in my “early 40s” as opposed to my “late 30s.” And nearly all of my friends are 40+ so 40 seems like a GREAT age to be! And I don’t feel like this birthday is that big of a deal, but a lot of other people seem to think that it is. I have a theory that part of the reason so many people (my mother, some family and friends, etc.) are putting so much emphasis on this birthday is because I’ve never had a wedding and I’ve never had a baby. They, I think, feel like this is my Last Chance for a Big Party. Do these people even KNOW me? Ha!
So. I went on a journey to Grad School City (on Frequent Flier Miles! It was FREE!) to visit with Grad School Best Friend (Dr. Medusa, for old time-y readers), Naomi (a high school best friend who got her PhD and is now on the tenure-track in the Greater Grad School City Area), and J (another friend who recently moved to the Greater Grad School City Area for her job). The last time Naomi and J. had seen one another (the first time they saw one another) was my 30th birthday. Nobody had ever met Medusa. Whatever! My friends are grand! It would be grand!
It WAS grand! The main celebration was Friday. Wine! Me outside of Medusa’s house texting her, “Why am I alone outside?” which really is an existential question for the ages, but mainly we were going to our ride that was there and all of my friends are slowpokes. Tapas at the most festive restaurant! A return to a Grad School Haunt, which really is the Land that Time Forgot, in that all of the people are different and yet all of the same scenarios are being played out! Home to Medusas for drinks and dancing and fun!
And then the other days. Thursday with Medusa drinking wine and looking at old pictures – taken on CAMERAS! With FILM! That you needed to have developed before you knew what the pics looked like! Our constant refrain: “This is when we were young and beautiful.” And singing along to a record from that time! Saturday hung over and eating Mexican food! Sunday with Naomi watching Drunk History On Demand! Today – breakfast with Naomi and lunch with Medusa!
I did no work, and I did not think about work. I bonded with my ladies and I appreciated the fact that I have such amazing and fabulous friends.
Up next: dates with two new suitors this week, a party for my friend S.’s birthday that I’m hosting next weekend, and then my actual birthday!
40 is FABULOUS! Even if I’m not quite 40 yet 🙂